it's really not. it's called trial and error. when i first came to rp, i was really big on replying to everything, and feeling pressured into replying when i didn't want to. when someone asked for something, depending on who it was, it was either a job of trying ot word it so they didn't take it personally, or knowing they would anyway and readying myself for the deluge of how i'm a horrible shitbag and ruined their life.

there are plenty of people that have asked me things in bs, either in dms or on the thread itself depending on their comfort levels of public private communication. some of them take 'thank you for the offer, but no' really well and just move on. others try to argue me into why their version of xyz is unlike the versions i like and if i just give them a chance, they'll prove it. they drag it out. they're rude and in denial. i am tired of playing the gamble of how someone will respond and prefer to just ignore at this point when it's something i'm not up for. i receive the same behavior and my butt is not flustered. sometimes, i'll tag someone with a scenario and get radio silence and i take that as a 'no, thank you'. other times, i forget about it entirely and a month later i get 'hey, sorry, i was in a bind and just got to this, yes i'm interested', i tag back, and radio silence again. i pretty much forget about it five minutes after it's done.

my attention and time is focused on the tags in my inbox, not on all the potential tags i'm not getting and how i can nag someone into giving me what i want, despite their own personal interest, and how that person i tagged three weeks ago should come to me with hat in hand an a gilded apology letter with sparkles and money in it.

stop fucking caring so much. i legitimately mean that. you will feel much less stress over rping if you just stop taking it so personally.