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people don't owe you their time or their writing. just because you both want to write the same thing, doesn't mean that the way you write or interact fits. rp is about finding something that meshes.

agree. but it's good manners to communicate. unfort these days everyone leaves everyone else on read because we're afraid someone will bite our head off for saying no thanks or don't want to waste the time or energy on being as considerate to others as we ourselves would like. we are very likely to be inconsiderate to people we don't know, especially if we think we'll escape consequences or reputational damage doing so.

write a few stock starters for yourself and point strangers to those to pick and choose or they can wildcard you something else they want. stop wasting your free time, your energy, and your enthusiasm by flushing it down to give someone else a hit of validation.

yeah, I just wish people would say "sorry not interested". i get why they don't but it's frustrating for those of us who would go "oh ok thanks for letting me know".

while it is completely true that communication is courtesy, we also have to remember that others have lives that completely do not involve us. they likely arent offended by your tag, it's just that they had other things they valued over communicating with you or maybe they forgot.

It really would be nice to be communicated with, but its also important to practice just... not taking these things so personally.

a (previously?) good friend picked up the other half of my otp but doesn't ship it. cool, i don't mind gen stuff! happy to help them voice test and do platonic cast stuff in memes and psls and whatever else. things seemed ok for a while.

but then they picked up the half i play as well and keep talking on plurk about how the character definitely isn't and couldn't be into anyone else in canon and a bunch of other interpretations pretty counter to how i and most other people viewed canon and it's getting kind of annoying. every other plurk has mini rants about disagreeing with interpretations that match what i play out. i know not everyone will agree on characters and ships and i wouldn't call the ship canon or anything because it isn't, but it feels very directed?

it's very weird and has felt wildly passive aggressive for weeks now and i've mostly decided to drift away from them but has anyone else ever experienced this?

if it's people posting ads and setting things up and then ghosting, i think it's less taking it personally in a bad way and just more being annoyed that someone went through all the plotting and such with you only to vanish. it's normal to be annoyed about people flaking on anything you plan, it isn't overinvested or crazy to go "well this sucks".

sometimes it feels like there's people watching the rpwoes threads like hawks just to go you can't be upset abt anything ever! Which is weird lol

that... wasn't the intent of my comment, but i've definitely seen what you mean. people venting their woes are sometimes also looking for solutions to those woes and "practice self-affirming and not taking things too seriously when understandably annoying things happen to you" is a solution to that woe. no one HAS to take that advice but maybe someone out there needs it.

for instance, from your response, kind of feels like you took my comment a little too personally

i would say ranting once or twice about others' interpretation of the character could have nothing to do with you, but constantly going on about it where they know you'll see it does seem extremely targeted and passive aggressive. a good friend (i'd argue even someone just with better social skills) wouldn't constantly shit on your interpretation, they'd agree to disagree and move past it. i'm sorry your former friend sucks so much.

I find this deeply frustrating too but I managed to solve it for myself by basically setting very hard boundaries with… myself. I will follow up on a thread with one PM after three weeks and then put it out of my mind and move on or something similar. The more you practice this kind of stuff the easier it gets.

i mean, i have no problem moving on from it? but that doesn't make it less annoying. i don't think i have to set boundaries not to have feelings? it's not like i do anything about those feelings beyond blacklist the flakes.

yeah, i told myself it was just a coincidence the first two times and then i went okay maybe it's a thing! enough so that one other mutual asked me if we were fighting or something (we aren't to my knowledge they just REALLY prefer a very rare and uncommon ship and i think are mad that my ship is the popular choice in fandom)

speaking from just my own experience, we're (almost) all adults with full time jobs and mental health problems. sometimes a crisis, even a small ones, happens unexpectedly and leaves you unable to have time to respond until the next thing you know a month has passed and then there's the dire self-consciousness that you've left them waiting too long and surely they aren't interested anymore and you know you just need to reply goddamn it but then it's another month, and another few weeks, and...

but thank you, thread op, I've got some time coming up and I'm going to make a point to dive deeper into my inbox and just reply already. Worst that can happen is they've lost interest and don't respond at all, right?

probably i am a fool for posting this so close to the end of the month but!! here are two shameful incest plots i haven't been able to get out of my head; looking to play the f! no preference re icons, and i am open to both canon chars and ocs, but most likely i'll be using the latter <3

a.) dad x daughter - he's always been obsessed with his only daughter, to the extent that he's been lightly grooming her for x amount of years. finally one night he can't take it anymore, and he sneaks into her bedroom while she's asleep to molest her; he can either have slipped something into her drink before bed to ensure that she's drowsy / compliant, orrrr she can wake up fully and be into it all on her own! looking for uncertainty and hesitance on the daughter's part, and a bit of fear, but also willing to work with you if you'd prefer something less terrible / more consensual.

b.) dad x daughter redux but she's the aggressor! a messy divorce turned an unfair custody battle made it so that he hasn't seen his daughter in years - finally he's been granted as her sole guardian, and can't wait to reestablish a relationship between the two of them. except, she wants something more - to fuck her father that she's spent years pining after and missing, and to show him that he deserves something good after all the hell that he's gone through. very interested in the guilt / morality issues on the father's end, and the daughter being pushy and even manipulative to get her own way!

feel free to pm me here and thanks in advance!

when you reply back you can also invite them to a new one! i replied maybe a month late on a few tags while I was moving being like "no hard feelings if you want to move on from this, we can pick up somewhere else" and have been able to continue one or two and start a new thread on another

no one is saying you can't feel your feelings OR that it isn't annoying. some people just would like to not feel annoyed or upset about that kind of thing and practice helps. you aren't obligated to take ayrt's advice, they were just saying what works for them.

literally no one is going to do this unless you know each other well ooc. ghosting some random on the internet whose writing you don't connect with is smarter and safer, even if you set up a PSL with them.

is this something they always did with other characters and ships too or just this one in particular? if it's behavior that's generally very common for them and something they do every single time they get into a new fandom or character, i wouldn't necessarily think it's targeted, but i'd still think it's tactless and unnecessary to yuck people's yum in their presence instead of just airing that out with friends whom you know agree with you in dms or something. it just makes someone seem unpleasant and socially tone-deaf to push that in other people's faces.

no, it just started with this character and ship. it's one of those ships pushed by marketing but never confirmed and widely present in fandom due to that. they prefer a ship with a very minor character (which is fine) and seem to be taking it personally that most people don't ship that (which is less fine) and seem to have gotten bitter towards me specifically for having partners willing to play out the popular ship with me while they have no one willing to play out the unpopular ship with them...? is my best read on the situation. it's just kind of fucking insane since we used to get along fine and i was perfectly happy to do gen only stuff with them and didn't even talk about the popular ship anymore when i spoke to them once they told me they disliked it??

right but they're the one who keeps commenting that people SHOULDN'T have those feelings and should do x. when people aren't even saying they're doing anything other than feeling mildly annoyed.

like why do they have such an issue with people being mildly annoyed about this? have they flaked on a thousand psls or something?

false, i tell people if something doesn't work for me.

but then again, i am a working adult. i'm not so sure about some of you.

i've gotten a tag back from two years ago and was fine continuing to play it since i still played the character, honestly

what about it

Does anyone know how to blacklist? I tried dwtools but it doesn't seem to be working.

a hundred times, this. yall acting like clear communication is some unreasonable or unfair expectation are embarrassing.

eh

i don't know you

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