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that's fair enough anon. chalk it up to a bad few days and maybe you're feeling more sensitive about these things than normal. it happens. try not to let it get you down too much.

you feel really bad about making an ugly assumption of someone for not writing a tag that you find fun to engage with, and then you follow that up with another ugly assumption about people for not writing tags that you find fun to engage with

nah, that's not funny.

and idk how far you could've got in a writing hobby with assuming the worst of people vs. maybe they're writing in a style that doesn't gel with me personally.

like

why are you jumping to 'this person's a dick and is being deliberately antagonistic' instead of 'different rp styles'?

you didn't gel, big fucking whoop.

"I showed up to poetry night and ended up with my spoken word slam poem being rap-battle diss-tracked in response."

how are you still not getting that this comparison is slanted and unfavourable to people who are not you

anon I invite you to hit someone youre threading with up right now to tell them their tags read like a rap battle diss track

compare your own to poetry night for bonus points

see what they think

i still don't think you understand and at this point idk how to fix that

see the issue here is you're admitting you were wrong and unfair out of one side of your mouth and still comparing this person to intentionally inflammatory and insulting media like diss tracks and rap battles with the other

so the implication here is that you don't actually understand and are still convinced the player is making a conscious effort to sound antagonistic and unpleasant with you

ok

you liking them doesn't mean they aren't predicated on being insulting on purpose

It seems more fair to assume "cranky sometimes ICly insulting narrative voice as a writing style that can sound damn cool when it's done right and eggs the right kind of tagger into challenging CR" is better than "so inept at writing they can't tell when their tags give people nothing to work with to the point of a 'stop tagging me' vibe" though.

we don't actually know what's happening in this case because we only have one side of this story

this seems more like it was just just a weird or maybe lazy attempt at writing negative CR that was really easy to mistake for actual negging than anyone going looking for malice. An unclear tag is a miscommunication as much as misunderstanding said unclear tag is.

And I know I've seen people admit to ic "hints" at OOC criticism in anon spaces, even if the only specific example i can remember was from that one anon who thinks we should all have to ask oocly before assuming CR on text memes.

I don't think that happened here, unless there's stuff being left out.

As someone who plays abrasive, annoying and rude characters? Yes?
I will, say, go out of my way to acknowledge the tone my jerk dude is using while hitting on your character is boorish, or make a point in the narration that my overbearing high-strung character is rambling on about an obscure topic without realizing no one's actually interested, or that my quiet broody guy's focus is split between the other character and whatever he's brooding over this time. I make sure people realize I'm writing them that way on purpose. Not hard, only takes a few sentences max, unless I wanna toss in a flashback or something to really drive a point home.

I've definitely seen tags I can imagine mistaking for oocly rude and some that might've actually been, but none have been directed to my inbox lately, thankfully.

One that stood out while I was looking at active threads for people to tag later was someone who kept only writing a single line of dialogue and a single line of bracket narration (even that read less like thought or reflection and more like justification for the dialogue for some reason?) to someone who was giving them a mix of tag lengths with some pretty cool sounding stuff that'd be useful for plotting (in my imagination, anyway), none of which got any real reaction or went anywhere.
I would definitely call putting in that little effort compared to a tag partner rude, even if it's the kind of rude you can be entirely by accident. Not hostile or terribly abrasive, but definitely a little thoughtless.

But then again, could be I was just jealous 'cause I would've loved getting the tags that player didn't seem to want. Gonna keep my eyes open for the more active tagger; maybe I can talk them in to recycling the wasted scene for my dude.

could be, but it's one of those where it's really, really difficult to say without actually being privy to the thread itself.

the vast majority of 'not interested in your character/you' rpers seem to lean towards just taking a dog's age amount of time to reply/dropping threads than they do being antagonistic, be it overt (ooc) or covert (weird meta text), which is what makes me think that it's a fucking weird stylistic thing more than anything else.